We’re Married, Let’s Stay That Way.

So, while surfing the web, I found this little gem full of advice on having a long and happy marriage:

15 Ways to Stay Married for 15 Years by Lydia Netzer

I like the fact that the advice given is not superficial, it’s about the way you treat one another and the way you behave as a married person.  It’s not about forcing things like regular date nights and fancy boom boom.  It’s about loving someone.

The truth is if you do something every week two things are bound to happen:

1. It is no longer special.  So what if you go out on a date every Thursday? Suddenly, “date” is not something special, it’s Thursday.

2. It becomes a chore.  If you want to make plans or you don’t feel well, you will still feel obligated to go for the other person.  It’s not exciting.  It’s something you have to do because it’s what you’ve always done.

Don’t schedule your love.  Wrap yourself up in it and celebrate it.  Get dressed up for no reason at all and go out if you want a date.  Be cheesy and flirt all the time.  Spend every day trying to impress your spouse.  Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you should stop courting one another.

The Boy and I are still learning to be husband and wife.  To be co-dependent.  We have a lot to learn.  I bet, as time goes on, my reactions to these online marriage advice categories will change, and I look forward to that.  I hope that one day I will have some advice of my own.

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