In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I’m going to help others. I was checking my Google searches and I found this one:
“What does it mean when you tell a crush you are a hot mess and his response is ‘how can I help?’?”
So, I decided to help this poor girl (or boy*) out. And here’s the answer that comes from being alive for nearly 30 years, practically surviving adolescence and loads of crushes in my time:
I have no fucking idea what that means.
However, I do know that young love, though fleeting, is amazing. Trust your gut, if you like him, go for it. If he says no, it will hurt. A lot, and even if kids are mean and tease you for liking him, know that confidence and acceptance whether he likes you or not will cause them to get bored with teasing you and move on. Plus, if he is into you, you totally get the bonus of that precious rush of emotions that is young love.
Embrace it. Do what I was always too insecure to do at that age, and risk it, because it’s totally worth it.
*If he’s gay and not out of the closet, it’s really best that you not make a move until you know for certain. Young love is beautiful, regardless of gender, but openly loving a boy who is not certain or comfortable that he loves boys is a can of worms you should not open. Trust me, find out for sure first. High school is hard enough.